Sven: Take what you can get - 90/10. I agree about WAW and putting the boys ahead of you ... mine has done the same and what little affection I used to get turned to 0... I became jaded and bitter - no affection back and ... well you know the rest...
Without someone making the effort on the affection front and continuing to put out more than their fair share, there is no chance for a relationship to continue.... it goes into a withering death spiral.
So - my advice - continue on the stroking and caressing of your wife (both mental, spiritual and - if allowed - physical). In the end it will pay off in long-term dividends.
