Sven,
First thing is that you did not blow your top, a la "old Sven". Did she notice that? Second, she is snooping and this suggests she does not trust you. Her finding the ring confirms her suspicions, in her mind anyway. All this means is that you need to work a little harder on communicating with your WAW. You are fatigued emotionally and mentally from this tremendous ordeal. This is incredibly draining physically as well, but I know you have the strength to persevere. You had a minor backslide and that is okay. When you give her the resized ring give a some flowers to go along with it . Stay cool my friend. Hope to see you soon. Ciao.

AK