Slowly, your comments are both inspiring and frustrating as you can imagine. Honestly, I hope I have the strenght to last the year. I have found such inner strenght and confidence in my self that I won't compromise. Sometimes I feel that is what I am doing. We'll stay the course for now. Even when she asked me to move home, I got the sense that the conviction was not there. WAW will readily admit however that this is all her at same time. That from here the failure of the M is on her, not me. Hence perhaps the cold shoulder and the sense of pressure. Our mutual friend was noticing the other day that when WAW becomes stressed, she seems to put her focus everywhere it does NOT belong - where if she directed her energy at something that could be positive - instead of trying to fix what can never be fixed might have incredible results. Steven Covey (7 Habits) covers this stuff very well.
On the poem thing - yea, my gut was telling me otherwise. What I did instead was to write one (couldn't help myself) about her being a mom. That way it takes the attention away from me and puts it squarely on her "favorite" job, that being a mom to our three boys. I'll tell you that was more fun to write than the one I wrote about her and I.
Anyway, we'll give that a try and see what happens. Feels more appropriate with Mother's day and all.
Anyway, thanks again Slowly - your venusian view of the world for me is incredibly helpful.....
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
