Sven, That is what I was afraid of, that your WAW took it upon herself to make the blanket statement that you were moving back home. Unfortunately I think you are right in that your W is not ready for you. You have changed so much for the better and she seems to still want her cake and then get to eat it as well. This transition is going to be extremely tough emotionally for both of you. Even more so than the sep. You both will have great difficulty finding and giving space for each other. Definitely keep the apartment for a while longer. You will overcome the OM in time, I have no fear of that. You are miles ahead of him in every department. It is not so much "defeating" him as it is winning back your WAW. The OM will defeat himself in the long run. Keep on doing what works, and perhaps at MC you should suggest that it is too early to come back. It is incredably difficult to go back to a cheating WAW. If my W and I ever reconcile it will be hard as well. Her family, especially parents, will treat me as a pariah and, I think, this is the main reason she is so reluctant to make that move. You and your WAW need to build more trust I think before you can move back. Take it slow for now and tread lightly. Leave your options open. Let her prove she is worthy of you and not the reverse.
