For those that haven't been following my sitch over in Newcomers, here is the sitch:
Me: 38 WAS: 39 Three children: S10, S7, S3 Married 12 years, together 15 Bomb: July 2005
Essentially, after moving out in August to a little one bedroom apartment as you all know it has been a veritible rollercoaster. WAS had about a 4 month affair which she claims is over. Been in MC for about 5 months (off and on, but more regularly lately).
This past weekend, she invited me to move home. Many of the details are in the thread link at the bottom of this post.
I've been home now for 3 straight nights and have been "trying" to "ease" into it. Although, as far as she is concerned it is essentially okay to move back at any time. This has been tough because to respond with, I'm going to stay at the apartment tonight is usually met with a negative tone. Not entirely bad, I think she just wondering why I don't "run" back - that it might be "me" that has issues now. I think OTOH, this probably isn't bad since what is wrong with her thinking that I am "thinking" about it.
However, the days and nights have been good overall - we are comfortable around each other (always have been) and flirty. No ML yet - almost the other night, but S3 couldn't sleep so he came into our room (which was a problem before as well!!!). Need to get that kid chained to his bed!!!!
I'd like to plan a complete move back over the next week and a half. W had told the kids that "daddy would be moving back in a couple weeks". W and me had a talk about renewing vows - assuming we could make it work.
One other thing I am struggling with is the ILY. I still don't say it and we've had couple of moments where it would seem she is waiting for me to say it. Any thoughts on this? I'm guessing wait until she says something FIRST.
Anyway, I know the real work begins now. Here's to all of us trying to make this work.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
