It sounds to me that she does trust you, and her lack of affection might not be because she dosnt want to but her fear of the confusion of her feelings.
The reason I have been able to go back to being affectionate with my H is because I am by nature affectionate and carring. Not allowing that part of me was hard on me and kept me closed off. It was the "act as if" that helped there. I was also afraid to be affectionate because I wasnt sure we could work things out. Feeling afraid of committing to the long haul when I didnt know what was going to happen with my feelings. If my own personal problems would interfere with me being able to have a healthy relationship period, not just with my H. So I was very afraid of leading him on in a situation that I wasnt certain of the outcome. The thing is I dont have to be certain of the outcome, and if I dont put my all into it then there is more of a chance of a negative outcome. not trying to be a thread buster just hoping my feelings might trigger thoughts of your own for your situation.
She definitly is showing wonderful positive signs. Yes its great she took care of her phone as far as your feelings go and also that speaks volumes for her feelings as well, I think.
"She is however trying in small ways. A touch here or a brush there. I know it is on her mind. I am not sure how to proceed. I am mixed as to when to push the envelope."
I think maybe just mirroring her actions. let her lead and you can reciprocate and intiate the same level of contact as well. Once things are comfortable you can go just a tiny bit further and stay there a while and so on.
I am sure this Christmas vacation will be a wonderful time of connection for you two!
as things progress she will start to feel more secure in her actions.
