Chris,

I am curious about what you said.
You feel that you will know she trusts you again when she shows more affection.
What does she say about that?
Does she feel her lack of affection is about you and not about her.
or is that how you interpret it from the way men feel.
I am very affectionate with my H but its hard for me to open up to him because of my lack of trust. for me personally the not wanting to share my inner feelings and vulnerabilities is because of lack of trust.

Just some thoughts to think about.

you are doing great!!!
Sue