Chris I was scared too when I attended the first joint session since August just earlier this week. I could see that H had made progress as he continued to go by himself from September until two weeks ago. I didn't know for sure what to expect in the joint session and it made me nervous.
For me it really was different than I expected. The therapist told me how glad she was to see me again and asked how I thought things were going and I told her they seemed to be going well. She let us both know how far we had come and said to just keep doing what we were doing. My H is very happy that his sanity came back and he is with his family that loves him. He is now trying everything to help me feel secure in our relationship again. The therapist agreed with my H that it was not necessary for us to see her anymore but that she will always be there for us if we hit a snag. We went ahead and made an appointment for next month anyway because I think I need a little help with this "full steam ahead" attitude of my H. I told H and the therapist that my goal is not to just pretend this never happened but to come out of this with a better than ever marriage that we are both happy in.
Chris I am going to be waiting to see how your session goes and keeping my fingers crossed for you. This is progress my friend. You are doing so well with the DBing techniques. Keep up the good work.
My H was a walkaway with an OW ho. Same old story huh yadda, yadda, yadda. Sure is interesting how the same thing happens to so many of us. Good Luck Chris.
[This message has been edited by Johnswife (edited 12-10-1999).]
