I havn't posted but I have been checking your thread each day
I like how you work this through this latest issue and you have a great bunch of people helping you
Quote: I really believe that this is only a problem if I make it one.
I think this is very insightful of you - and think the fact that in your later post you are feeling a little better -in your head but say your insides are still churning is a good sign that you are soon going to feel better in the pit of your stomach
you seem to be working out what is the best thing for YOU at this point in time that keeps you moving forward
I am sure that though you are sad and angry if this issue comes up later you can discuss it more from a view of disappointment than anger as you say this was something you thought happened anyway but I think you were really holding onto your w's words of it didn't happen - hence the big shock for you
it could also be that once she denied any PA she couldn't go back for fear of messing things up
I just want to say that this may not all be as bad as your mind is thinking - since I seperated almost 9 months ago I have menstruated twice (yes twice in nine months) after the first three months my dr had me do a pregnancy test though I told her I could not possibly be pregnant - so I did one and it was negative - I was right stress and anxiety was the cause I guess that a possibility is that your wife missed menstruating due to her stress and anxiety and was confused as to how she could have missed and was just checking
I guess what I am saying is that sometimes things are not as simple as we think them to be and logic can take us to the wrong end
you appear to be handling this ok it must be extremely distressing for you it is good you have people on here to talk to
