That's kinda what I am thinking here. I'm thinking that this trip is one of the VERY few times W and I will ever get to be together without the kids, doing something we both enjoy. Why should I taint that with conversation that is about something that I have known about for months?
My sincere guess is that the trip will be deeply tainted and covered in little passive aggressive maneuvers and hurt expressions and resentment unless you get this out in the open.
Second, this really is an opportunity for you to show your wife that you can handle the truth, that she does not have to protect YOU, in fact, you can support her. You can show her your strength and compassion even while not pretending not to be hurt. This is an opportunity for you to be there for her, AND for her to be there for you. You are taking this away from her unless you do talk about it with her in a reasonable period of time.
