Here's another wrinkle. About a month ago I bought my W tickets to a concert 2.5 hours away for next weekend. I arranged for my parents to babysit so we could stay over there for the night, which to my surprise, she seemed to like the idea of. It is also Mother's day that weekend and so I was going to get W a massage (she's been wanting one for a long time now) at the place I plan on booking. SO, IF I do talk to her, do I do it before, after or during that little trip. There is not much chance of us not going. We have spent too much money so far and really, based on our sitch before last night, there was every reason in the world to get away together and have some real quality time together.
I don't think I am really asking your opinions about the trip because I'm committed to going. What I am asking you is whether this trip should influence my timing on any R talk I would have with her. To me, it's a lot like before the Ireland trip when I thought all this stuff was going on. I decided to just go and ignore all the "stuff". That's kinda what I am thinking here. I'm thinking that this trip is one of the VERY few times W and I will ever get to be together without the kids, doing something we both enjoy. Why should I taint that with conversation that is about something that I have known about for months?
NOW, I think SHE may instigate a R talk before then because each of the past two weekends she has, and opened up more each time. Maybe SHE's waiting until this weekend to talk. In that event, I will have to see what she says and decide on the fly if I need to tell her about the receipt.
