If she was having a PA, at what point did you believe it to have been over?
I ask this because it may not still be going on but if it had been, even just a couple months ago, then she could reasonably just now be feeling that she may be pregnant.
Imagine for a moment that that is what happened. Imagine how scared she must be to have even had to TAKE the test, knowing that it was over and you two are trying to reconcile....
Could that be what is happening and it not be as bad as you think? You CAN deal with the fact it was a PA rather than an EA. You CAN deal with her never having owned up to it and finding out this way. She will be sorry that that happened, but let's assume the best instead of the worst. The need to take that test was a lingering result of an affair. An affair that is over.
You can do this. You have what it takes. I know you do.
