I just want to comment on OT's LBS beliefs. I agree with most of this, but I do take issue with this one:
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You may not have had an A but you have been the source of great pain for another person for a long time, you have violated your vows to be a loving supportive partner in many ways for a long time.


Ain't necessarily so. In some cases, the WAS is the source of his/her own pain, and needs to learn about him/herself and grow into a better, stronger person. That doesn't mean that the LBS is not to blame at all for the problems, but I don't think it's fair to assume that the LBS has been " the source of great pain for a long time." There can be many other issues involved.

~Nicola

Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself
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