Hi GH,

I don't know if I've ever posted on your thread; maybe when you were TMU.

Anyway, things really seem to be going well for you, even though I know every day requires so much patience on your part. Your are learning so much about yourself and relationships, which is great. Too bad there isn't an easier way to learn it, though.

I want to ask your opinion about a situation I'm in, but I'll give you a bit of background first. H moved out almomst 9 months ago. He was having an A, but broke it off shortly after he moved out. We have been getting somewhat closer again and are on the path to rebuilding a deep friendship. I think the only thing holding us back from that is the subtext that comes from being separated. We have not taken any legal steps, btw.

With that in mind, we have been out for lunch twice since he left: December and Feb. We went out for dinner w/ kids two weeks ago. I invited him to a comedy show this Friday, and he said yes. Now here's my dilemma: I don't know if I can take being with him and not touching him anymore. Every time I see him, I just want to hug him, kiss him, run my fingers through his hair. I'm not even asking for ML (although I wouldn't say no!), but the no touching is huge for me. I can live with it when he picks up or drops off the kids, but even then it's hard. When the two of us are alone, it's even worse.

I was thinking of cancelling and honestly telling him why: he's just too sexy! I know you're in a similar position, except from what I gather, your W has said she wants to give your R another chance (is that right?).

Sorry barge in and just ask for help, but I really don't have any advice to give you.

~Nicola

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