GH, you are in a good place right now. Everything is out in the open. You know how she feels and she knows how you feel.
Take your own advice:
Quote: I know that I need more patience and all this talk of intimacy is too much, too soon. She needs to put this OM thing behind her and until she does, I need to DB my ass off and do what's best for me as I have been for the last 5 months.