Wow, you did great. It is really wonderful that you opened up some and a critical time to do so. She was getting fed up with giving up OM for more of the same and you made it clear that that is NOT what you want.
You set boundaries without issuing ultimatums. You shared things that are hard for you to admit to yourself.
No matter what happens, I'd say that conversation is the most important thing that has happened in terms of you having a good relationship as H/W or simply co-parents in the future.
It is great that she is opening up more about the PA. I think you are right that she is only sharing a little there -- testing you, but even moreso it is all she can tolerate in terms of facing herself just yet.
I think you said money has been pretty decent lately. Can you get her a gift certificate to a cab company so she has a bit of freedom?
