Having read that monster post over again, I think it comes across as much more "me talking a lot and telling her what she thinks" than it was. It was a LOT of her talking and not much me. The points where I told her what she thinks were at points where she either asked me if I understood something or, and this was especially true of the intimacy convo, when I just needed to make sure she knew I understood what MY issues were without her telling me. That involved a little speculation on my part about how she felt but I seemed to be right on.
I guess I am just posting my side, so I tend to post what I say most of all. I wish I could convey the context but it is so hard to do.
This was the first time in our entire relationship where I managed to stifle my normal urge to interrupt and interject all the time. I just listened, validated and then shared my thoughts when appropriate. I learned a LOT about my W last night. Things that I can focus on when we begin the real work of repairing this relationship.
