W: Us, everything. We need to talk about things. You know things are not good. I keep it all bottled up inside and it's making me sick. I hate waking up in the morning, making breakfast and then the day just goes by, nothing changing, status quo.
You hate this too. I think you need to really listen to her and really open up.
If you wait to open up until "you know" how she will respond, it will be too late. That is mere safety, not intimacy, not change. Like I've said, as far as she knows, you are fine with the status quo.
I was going to share my feelings, not ask any questions. Having given it some more thought, another reason I didn't do it was that I'm not sure my feelings really mean much to her right now.
Case in point ^
I asked if it was "him" that was causing her stress or "us" or both. She didn't answer that. She mumbled something like "It's not really bad" and then just said she was still tired and wanted to rest some more. I just said ok and walked away to make the kids' breakfast.
I see interrogation here rather than listening and sharing.
I have NO clue where this is going.
Quite true.
If I try to address it, she will just clam up as she always does.
Ah, so I guess you were mistaken before and you do have a clue. Indeed, you seem pretty certain you understand this all perfectly...
