Whew, you got that out. Now, stop wondering if you should have/should NOT have asked. You have a big job to focus on. You are strong, pull that from within your core today and do a spectacular job.
As a friend of mine said long ago: put it in your pocket for now, you have other things to focus on. If you let yourself get bothered, you'll resent yourself and W, and she didn't mean to throw you off today.
Should you ask her? How is your communication now? Can she be honest and not have to lie? Can you be calm? If not, then don't ask, you might just get a lie. If you can, then do talk to her. Or at least tell her that it bothers you that she wears those shirts. You have a right to say that and she has a right to know. Keeping silent on this won't help. You might be able to see from her reaction to this request the truth of things still going on.
You're awesome in all your advice...take a little bit of that today.
