Thanks for the lesson...lol. OT and I have been down this path some before. She suggested that my W is faking some or all the time with me. Well, I guess nobody but my W would know the truth, but I am almost certain that she has had them with me. There are times when she seemed to just be going through the motions and then there are other times when I could tell something was different if you know what I mean. I have no qualms about admitting that she may have faked sometimes, I'm sure she did, just as I am sure sometimes she did not.
I guess I am lucky to a certain extent to have been with a couple women in the past who were VERY open about these things and taught me a lot about what to and not to do. That's why I am reasonably sure that when it comes to the actual foreplay and intercourse, I am doing fine, it's the initiation stage and the extra-bedroom intimacy where I struggle mightily.
I suppose all along part of my confidence that this will work out is that I believe that if I work on my "approach" and manage to get things "going" again, then the rest will work out, or at least I hope so.
