GH - Not sure if this will help, but as far as the intimacy discussion goes I've been wanting to add a bit to the convo for a while. BTW, I think telling her in a direct way that you want to be intimate and you are concerned about how she would react is fine, and I also suspect you are feeling really sheepish because a similar convo went badly, that is, nowhere, while in Ireland, right? Well, times are different now! Time for action.
Anyway, here's what I've had on my mind. There is a biological component to ML that we hardly think about - unless, like me, you deliver babies for a living. There is a wonderful hormone our bodies make, called oxytoicn, which is sometimes called the love drug. We produce it when we have an orgasm, and it gives us a sense of love, peace, and actually bonds us with one another. This very same drug is responsible for contracting the uterus during birth (yes, labor is really jsut a whole bunch of orgasms all at once! too bad nobody experiences it that way...) and allows for the heavy bonding of mother and infant at delivery. And finally, it is the same hormone that helps eject milk from amother's breast to feed her child - again, a time of intense love and bonding. The point of this biology lesson is this - if your W can have an orgasm with YOU, she will inadvertantly feel love and bonding with you. It could be your secret weapon. If she's had them with OM and not with you, perhaps that's how this whole thing got so hairy in the first place. Anyway, having really good sex is not just an expression of a way we feel, it actually creates a way of feeling because of the hormones released. Ever wonder why once you do ML you want more and more and can't beleive you don't do it more often? Yep. That's oxytocin working it for you. I suggest you work it too, GH.
I guess I was thinking that this way of seeing it might help sway you towards action. I sure do hope you get some.
