Ok Mama & Rob, I think you are on to something. I am SURE I am coming off as needy no matter how much I try not to because, well, I AM needy in this area. She KNOWS what I want and need and that makes it all the worse for me. I try to play the confident, "just do it" role but it's just that, a role at this point. I am working on making it more than that but it's really hard to regain your confidence in this environment.
Now to my problem (or at least the one for this minute). IF you are right, and she needs more time, as I suspect she does, then how does that need for giving her time without pressure mesh with this idea that it may be time to have a talk and express how I feel. Is that not pressure as well?
I guess it's all in what I say, eh? I guess if I say "Baby, I want some sex in the next two weeks or I'm out of here." then it may be pressure. How about something like "W, I just want you to know that I am confused about where to go from here and a bit afraid to guess because if I am wrong I will make things worse, not better. I know I have passion and desire for you and I want to be able to show you that. Here is what I would like to see in our future and I just wanted to let you know so you can better understand where I am coming from..." Is that better or still too wishy-wahsy?
Thanks you two (and OT), you have given me a lot to think about. Like I said, the main thing I guess for me is to figure out how to balance the pressure/discussion thing.
