Thanks for the input, however, my husband of 22+ years isn't willing to attend the seminar. He has agreed to see a MC who is solutions based, but he wants no talk of marriage counseling only to talk about better communication as we progress through the D process. I will continue to hope and work toward reconciliation. It seems I have really done things all wrong, hopefully I can learn from my mistakes and make positive progress.
I am an optimist and always hopeful. Hopefully he will see the changes and find that there is still something to believe in.