IS MY MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING???

[hurtingagain]

Thanks for your response with the good ideas. You're right that I need to invite her out and plan time for us. When she's home, she's always getting ready to go out with friends and we don't get quality time. I hope that she will agree to go in the future.

My H has been moved out 3 months, so it's good for her to spend some time with him and it's also good for us to have some time apart, since it seems like some arguments more lately. I FEEL like H is trying to get her to stay with him so he doesn't have to pay support. Since she's helped clean up the house he's fixed up from fire, she's gotten paid and he's offered her 10% of profit when they sell it.
He uses money to influence her and like you said, I have to say NO, I can't afford that. She's working for her dad, so she says she wants to stay over there since they start early?

Since my H hasn't been alone since he left, (lived with his brother). I was hoping he'd get some time alone for him to think about it all. It appears now that everything is in his favor. My MIL said, just wait until his girlfriends are around and D16 won't like that or his girlfriends will want D16 out of the way.

I hope that D16 will start coming home more in the future. Thanks for your experience telling me to be patient and give her space and time. Don't push. Sometimes, I feel like pushing her to live with him just to get it over with so I don't have to wait.

No-one's filed yet, but I'm trying to setup consult with atty. I've seen 1 in the past, but still looking to secure one. So I know eventually we need to see where/when she stays for support.