IS MY MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING???

[hurtingagain]

Thanks GH. I'm moving on and don't intend to have S with STBX again. I think it's just his big NEED and he'll get it anywhere he CAN. OW, one nighters or me. On our vacation in April, we ML 3 times a day and had great sex, so maybe he does miss it. But it was nothing to me. There was no emotional or spiritual connection. It was only a physical thing. This helped me to see our R was over and I don't want to be with H anymore.

In the last month my emotions and self have seen that I need to move on. I can't be with this wimpy guy, he has no backbone, respect or much more. I am a special person and have bent over backwards for our R. I gave it my all and don't feel bad that it must end.

I appreciate your replies and posting so much. I see my STBX as shallow as they come. He was never in our marriage, unfortunately I didn't know it until this last year. My C said we see our spouse as ourselves, so I wanted him to have the integrity, loyalty, commitment that I had. Now I see why he was such a jeleous bas###. He thought I was doing what he was guilty of.

God created SEX to be such a celebration of our humanous and relationship. I hope to have that in the future with someone that is spiritual connection God designed. In my divorce class, it talked about how you leave part of yourself with someone thur the act of sex. It's a joining of our souls so to speak.