Hello my fellow sex-starved friends! I just found this forum today and I hope it's okay for me to post this here.
I wish I had found this forum a LONG time ago!!! Like some others have said, I’ve been sex-starved for years--even before the marriage happened actually. There have been countless “talks” about the problem at hand, doctor visits for my husband--who chooses not to take the medications offered to him because of the side effects, millions of tears and most recently an affair by me.
I have thought about divorce, but never really considered it a viable option for us, as we have several children. I cannot and will not live like this though--starved for affection, intimacy and sex. At present I don’t even feel like working on it anymore. I feel like I have given it my all for so long and nothing worked. Why will it work now? How can he change so dramatically when he’s never been able to keep up a change for more than a few weeks and then it’s back to the same old, same old.
I feel more sorry for him than for myself, but I feel like he just never cared enough about the way I feel to do anything to help himself. I am at such a loss as to what to do now. The affair is really not much of the equation for me because I know nothing other than a deep friendship/love/complete sexual satisfaction will ever come of it.
Any suggestion? Anyone ever been there?
Thanks in advance and I’m sorry if this is covered somewhere else, but I’m sort of feeling desperate for answers/guidance these days.
