Another very helpful thread!! I hadn't even thought about the rings -- I wear my rings only when we go out, but not around the house (afraid of losing/damaging them!) Several years ago, he *lost* {frown} the one we married with (which was custom made of white gold and inset cubic zirconia -- I got real diamonds ) and I replaced it with a plain (embossed) white gold ring...

When he was packing this past Monday to fly off to spend ten days with his soon-to-be PA/mistress (the EA is three or so months old {wince} ), I asked if he was taking his wedding ring, and suggested it would be a bad idea to go visit his mistress and meet her family and friends while wearing his wedding ring!

He agreed, and said he planned to leave it behind. I've been wearing it on my left hand when I go out (with my rings on the right hand, I'm a leftie). But it would never have occurred to me to wear it had I not found this thread... I'm actually quite comforted by wearing his ring -- it reminds me that he and I were once committed to each other, and I hope can be again!

Neo's Wife

My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.