Dear DFE: I new at thsi stuff, but have some thoughts for you. Your tone seems very aggitated and resenful towards him. I understand, you are human. However, I need to point out to you that most of what you wrote was critisism of him. What about you? What have you done to work on the marriage? Did you move back to work on your M or was it becasue you resent paying the bills and his enjoying the house? You need to be honest with yourself. What is your goal here? If you want to work on your marriage and change your husband, then you must change your behavior. What's this with sitting in the closet? HAVE YOU EVEN READ THE DB BOOK? I suggest that you decide what you want first. If you want to fix your M, then purge yourself of all that resentment and do a 180. Why don't you cook him a nice dinner and invite him to a movie? Then do it again. He may be resistent at first, but if you persist, then he may start to respond positively. Read the BD book for Christ's sake and CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE.
