You are obviously a caring guy and your list is really wonderful. Unfortunately, to be honest, if I wasn't feeling loved, nothing on the list would really do it for me. I'll try to say why...
Nothing really says that you stopped and really thought about me and did something just for me and it was something that only someone who really knows and loves me could do. They are all too easy -- anyone I had just met could pretty much do very similar things for me.
If her thing is acts of service, what is something that she would really love to have done but that is a real hassle and she would never even think to ask you to do?
I'm a gifts person. Flowers can be special, or they might not be. They need to demonstrate real thought *beyond* "wow, I'd love to get something for oldtimer, let me call the florist." How do they become meaningful? By my H choosing a special color, smuggling them into the house, and then putting them in a vase next to the bed without me knowing to surprise me when we go upstairs.
A kiss good-bye and hello is pretty automatic. Sure, it would bother me not to get it, but getting it really doesn't do much for the love tank. A kiss goodbye with a thoughtful or sexy whisper about later in the day will, though.
Telling her something amazing about herself the night before rather than your degree of enjoyment may do wonders.
Being treated really like a date -- car door being opened, eyes stared into, flirted with, feeling like H is proud to be seen with me, going to someplace he put some thought into... it doesn't have to be a fancy restaurant, it could be shooting pool, it could be a nice walk and a picnic... again, the big thing here is the throughtfulness/attentiveness/consideration that CANNOT be an automatic. Dinner at a nice place can be set up by your secretary.
Camping with kids, kissing in the kitchen in front of kids, and talking about how wonderful the kids are all sound wonderful, but about bonding as a family not as a romantic couple.
Instead of hearing about my day, what does it for me is for H to ask me something specific about my day -- it shows he remembered what I planned to do and is wondering how whatever it was went for me. Again, it shows his particular knowledge of me and interest and concern. Any lonely guy on the bus can ask me about my day.
Holding hands YES, but only if you are attentive to the sensation and generating real interaction. Holding one hand and stroking her fingers gently with the other hand. Circling her palm, giving a gentle squeeze. Holding her hand in a very aware, sensual, concsious manner in which you really feel the connection.
Running to the store for ice cream -- would depend. It would need to be alot like an ideal flower gift for this to do anything for me. Some kind of context in which it was a particularly thoughtful action that showed you were really all about me at that moment.
Doing sports together would again depend on context. But good experiences here are definitely great things. A regularly scheduled thing to be checked off the days list (like going to the gym) might not get much mileage for you. But, even that can be a shared project that really does build intimacy.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Like I said, you have a wonderful list, but if you are looking for things that really make me feel loved by my partner and deeply connected, for me anyway they'd all need to be taken a step further to demonstrate a certain kind of considerate loving that only someone who cares deeply about me could share.
