Here are some things that I had highlighted in DR under surviving his MLC:
* First, you need to know that you are NOT the cause of all his unhappiness. He feels so bad about himself that he is striking out, and you just happen to be within striking distance.
* This is going to be a long haul.
* The unpredictability of his moods and his reactions will drive you nuts. But then there will be those times that keep you going, times when, for just a brief moment, things seem normal again.
* You are just going to have to let things happen, go with the flow. The answers must come from him. This will require an enormous amout of patience and self-control.
* It is very important that you give your H space. He needs time to think, feel, and experiment, even if part of his experimentation involves another woman.
* Discover what helps to keep you on track, whether it's taking a walk, going for a run, calling a friend, logging on to your computer, reading a book, or standing on your head.
* Find ways to make yourself happy during this most difficult time. Develop and discover ways to find inner peace without him right now. You are a wonderful person!
* You will need to stand back and allow your H to find his way. You have to learn how to detach from your H's confusion and let him struggle through it until he sees a clearing.
I hope this helps you. You can also email a private message if you would like to talk more. You have always been there for me so it is the least I can do for you.
