Hugs to you. There's a lot of information to digest and process. It's certainly a decision you and your H are going to need to come up with, if you can and want to work thru the truth of the past. If you have a grasp on reality, can you deal with it effectively and with a purpose of rebuilding a relationship? it will be hard work, are you both up for it?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
