Always, I think you are living in my head as I feel EXACTLY like this:
Quote: I read the things I post to others here, so confident and together and rational, and then get moments in my own life where I am so tired. Tired of acting, of the effort, of pushing pain and reality down to a deep place, tired of lies, of always suspecting, of always acting so as not to shake the boat.
This is where we need to really practice detachment - placing of all things in life into a healthy, rational perspective and recognizing that there is a need to back away from the uncontrollable and unchangeable realities of life. We need to develop and maintain a safe, emotional distance from our spouses whom we have previously given a lot of power to affect our emotional outlook on life.
I know you are feeling down right now, I too go thru this at least once a month (hormones could play a part) but don't be a victim, don't let his perceived lies get to you. It's working for me. My H always has unaccounted for time during the day - he gives me a story, whether it's true or not I don't know, I just let it go in one ear and out the other.
Yes, they want to work on their M BUT they may still be obsessed with the OW and it is hard to get over an obsession. I am in no way defending them, believe me what they chose to do was WRONG, but hang in there you have come so far!!
