WCW, thanks for responding. I'm over in Infidelity land. "the platonic relationship continues". If you or others have any words of wisdom I would surely appreciate it. I would love to hear from others who are actually farther along than me, who have been there done that. If my H is no longer attracted to me, I have a hard time with that. I am now at leat 25 pounds lighter than when this started. I wear more up to date stylish, sexy clothes and am no longer ashamed of my body. I'm sure you mom's can relate, I no longer resembled the woman he married after 6 pregnancies....yes, my hair is shorter but come on, if all you are after is long hair, then you are very superficial and you don't deserve me in the first place....