Dear Darbyg, I encourage you to keep your focus on the present. What is in your control right now is how you choose to make each moment with your W as successful as possible. It is tempting to imagine the worst and I believe that can't be too helpful if you are trying to hold onto PMA and stay focused on your goals! Don't let your worries about the future sabatoge your present, OK?
So, please practice stopping those thoughts and tell yourself to think about what you CAN do right now. (By the way, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is to do very little or nothing - as you know from the success of your meeting with her.)
There are good people on the board for you and they are willing to help, so I hope you continue to gain some support here. I am gone for a week, but hope to catch up with you when I get back.
Take care and keep up your DB approach!
Laurie, Divorce Busting Coach Contact The Divorce Busting Center at 303-444-7004 or 800-664-2435 if you would like to schedule a telephone consultation with a DB Coach - or email virginia@divorcebusting.com for info.