You can give her space by living in the same house, but different rooms. I hope you discussed that option. I hope the meeting went well, and that you had some answers to your questions. It seems as if your W is seeking some sort of fantasy life, which rarely pans out the way they hope.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim