This afternoon's meeting was called because my wife recently came clean to her family about the EA with the OG. She has been lying to her family and me about her reasons for wanting the divorce. Her family and her friends encouraged her to have this meeting with me to give me closure. I have scheduled an appt. with a DB consultant to speak with me right before the meeting to give me some advice on how to go about the meeting. My brother, the attorney, and my friends of course have all told me that I need ask probing questions and attack her. I know now through reading the DR and through all of your support that this is the worst possible thing to do. I need to let her tell what she feels comfortable with and show her that while I am not approving I know that her feelings must be true. I am just now realizing that I must get myself right with God and no matter what I will be the better for it. Our living arrangements are one of things that we will be discussing this afternoon. She only told me last Monday that she did not see any other way but for a divorce and things have happened so rapidly. Again the only person she is really listening to in this situation is the OG, not her family, or her friends. I do not want to move out of our house because I do not want to not be able to see our two dogs. I also think if I stay around that will give her a chance to see the new me. But on the other hand she probably needs space. I guess I need to see what she has to say this evening and really take to heart what she is saying. My family and her family are all praying that God will show her that she is making a mistake that God will show her this before she runs out of time. I appreciate all of your help. I am so nervous and feel that there is nothing I can do but pray! Thank you again!
