My W has a "very close male friend" who lives in another state and who she knew in high school. She reconnected with him last year and briefly thought she was in love with him in June 05 and decided we needed to separate. She quickly backed off from the being in love stuff but has kept contact with him by e-mail. She has since come to the conclusion that her strong feelings for him were because she didn't love me and is forging ahead with plans to separate and divorce. Every time I've gotten my feelings hurt etc. with respect to this other guy, it has done nothing but push her further away from me.
So, my advice, ignore the other person, read divorce remedy, and lay low. You are your own worst enemy right now and time and space are your best friends. Give her room, be a better person, and wait.
Don't confront her, make demands or anything else unless you are prepared to leave for real.
