Quote: I feel that I am running out of time to save my marriage especially since she is not listening to anyone besides herself and her EA.
You need to think of time as your friend and not your enemy. If you give her time and space, you'll give her a chance to reflect and see you differently.
You should NOT meet tomorrow night to "discuss" the OG. That will pressure her and push her away. Don't ask her to read DR or anything. Do your best to pull back from her, while still being friendly. Do NOT call her or initiate any talk about your relationship.
It seems counterintuitive, but this is your only chance.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)