I am very new to this forum. I just started logging on yesterday. Here is my story. My W and I are both 30 years old and have been married almost 6 years. My W informed me 6 weeks ago that she loved me but was not in love with me in any more. She said that she did not fell intimate with me and did not feel that these feeling would ever come back. My W said that she had been discussing these feeling with several of her friends and family members but did not want to tell me because she did not want to hurt me. She started seeing a therapist soon after telling me these thoughts and said that during her therapy session she discovered she had been gone from our marriage for a long time (she says 2 years). I asked her if we could start going to marriage counseling together and she said that the only reason she would be going would be out of guilt. She told me last Monday that she did not see any way other than for us to get a divorce. Things seemed to be moving rather quickly for me and I could not understand why. My W has always been a very loving and caring wife. I have never doubted her love and affection for me at any point when we dated for 3 years and during our 6-year marriage. It has recently come to light that she has an EA with a former friend. She has said that she is not sure if she is in love with him but she says that she has feelings for him. The OG lives 16 hours from us so I am not sure how they would work out any way but she seems to not be able to get me out the door quick enough right now. She has 2 more years of residency left before she can move anywhere. I am really hurt but love her so much that I want to keep trying and save our marriage. Her parents are against her divorcing me and feel that she is throwing her life away. Nobody seems to be able to get through to her right now because she is either lying to them or she is in a haze and will not listen to him or her. We have not had a full face-to-face discussion about the OG yet but will be meeting to discuss him tomorrow night. I made one request of her last week. I requested that she read Michele’s The Divorce Remedy. She promised me she would while she was out of town visiting some of our friends but I really doubt that she kept her promise. I am very scared because I love this lady so much and do not want this marriage to end but do not know what to do next. I feel that I am running out of time to save my marriage especially since she is not listening to anyone besides herself and her EA. I would appreciate any words or help any one can give me. Thank you!
