I started reading Peace Between The Sheets...it really is a different kind of book and got me thinking. I realize that I am tired of my HD/LD mood changes and being on a rollercoaster. I'm tired of badgering H to make sex more exciting for me. I'm tired of chasing a feeling because in some way I have " missed out" on my share of orgasms. I'm tired of feeling bad about my body and the need to add medication to keep me more revved up. In fact, before I began reading this book, I was going to go up on my dose of Wellbutrin because it wasn't doing the trick for me anymore. Instead, I have decided to stop taking it. And... I think my H is missing the point of lovemaking by his ritualistic style which he knows will not fail him.
I told H about the book's main ideas...I am not sure where this will lead us, but we both agreed that we need to work more on the emotional connection, to touch and feel each other, with no other pressures. We haven't set any kind of plan yet, but I feel calmer.
I'm so glad you had this reaction to the book. When I read it, I felt an enormous sense of relief, and release of pressure. Cleary in my sitch we aren't headed in the direction of lots of intense fcuking-- given the physical problems. But the deep EC described as the goal of this type of LM can last forever in the face of emotional upset, physical problems, aging... it can be a satisfying way of life.
Everyone here focused on the sex without O part, and freaked out unfortunately.
I think it was darlingnicky who said somewhere that what we REALLY want is a deep, erotic emotional connection with our partner. That is what this book is about. Thank you so much for validating that. Your opinion has a lot of credibility on this board.
Some focused on the no "o" part. Others looked at where their R currently was. If you can't even come to consensus about when and how and if ever to even touch one another sexually how can you even discuss another entirely different philosophy of sex? That was other people's point. I will be interested to see what Journey's H thinks.
Lil,
I didn't take it so much as what's sex without the O, I looked at it more along the lines of what is the chance of getting something like this to happen considering the difficulty I have getting her in the mood for *anything* including R talks, sex of any form etc. I'm weary of trying 'new' things because most of it backfires anyway.
What I mean is I'd like to see a bit of reciprocation in my R. This isn't going to change any of that.
