Cobra... The reason I don't speak up at the time is that I see him initiating the same way, doing our usual thing, and I feel shut down. I've had discussions with him ( before the fact) of some spicy ideas we can do, but when the time comes it seems that he can only perform in a set way and there's no room for flexibility. Like this morning...we had a discussion about doing something a little different this weekend, but when the weekend comes he'll go back to the usual. And I feel I should be happy because he is committed and there's EC and I find it hard to speak up. It's supposed to be lovey-dovey...and who am I to shake things up? That's how I feel. I feel by speaking up( at the time) I create tension between us...what could have been a nice encounter then is turned into something I have ruined.
