I don't consider myself all that sexually assertive. But I do have the capacity to be fun and more " out there" and I think this scares my H. He knows me so well that he can pick up the subtle shifts in my sexual personality. In once week's time I have been able to move from blah, LD-land to having more deisre, and in that time my H has gone from saying that he needs the sex for our connection to yesterdays " you seem obsessed with sex." If I could detach a minute I could see how ridiculous this is...I don't do anything overt...I just convey the feeling that I am feeling good...and I overwhelm him.
The questionb I am asking myself is why he would want to have sex with someone who is really not into it, and the only thing I can think of is that he feels safer and more in control that way.
Anyway, I am going to do my best to stay at this good feeling space. Not easy for me because stress does make me LD/depressed, and my H's attitude can do the same. Let's see how he handles my good vibes.
Oh, and for any LD women out there, I can say that even after a few days of Wellbutrin I could feel a difference in my libido. I am justifying taking it because I am always fighting off some depression. Even at a low does it's made a difference in my sexuality.
