Quote: I know how to have a regular sex life with H...be connected, be nice, look pretty, and be happy with the same ol' sex. And don't act or feel too sexual...he picks up on it.
Any way out of this dysfunction?
Girlfriend, I don't know. My cynical side wants to say that based on my experience there really are very few men who actually want to be with a woman who has a high sex drive or any sort of assertive sexuality. Of course, most men don't want to be with women who have an actively low drive and completely passive sexuality. IMO they mostly want to be with women whose sexuality is limited to being strongly sexually responsive (except maybe CeMar- I think this is what I like about him).
Of course, I shouldn't pick on men. Women have their own problems. Women mostly want men to be sexually assertive and affectionate but they want men to be sexually assertive and affectionate for the right reasons and in the right way and these reasons and ways vary from woman to woman. For instance, some women would be offended that their H got turned on because she was wearing a new red bra and some women would be delighted. Some women would be delighted that their H was affectionate because the refridgerator was clean and some women would be disgusted.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
