J, Fwiw, my H is not my emotional soulmate either. Not that I believe in that concept anyway.
Since I've lost my dad, I can't say that he 'gets' what I'm going through or that he's even asking me about it. I talk with my sisters about it and shed my tears with them. As far as he knows, I'm doing fine and haven't cried for weeks. !!!
It is SO hard coming to that place of acceptance...the place where you realize that this person is never going to even come close to filling your tank but then again just that knowledge brings some sort of peace, kwim?
Acceptance is hard and it takes time. I think the suggestion to farm out some of your emotional needs was brilliant. He can't be everything to you, despite the fact that he's THE person in the world who has the biggest emotional investment in you. Heck, in certain situations, he can't even be what he *should*. That's human nature, I suppose.
