Quote: He has never been good at comforting me and I'm thinking is this the way I want to spend the rest of my life....
This can be a "guy" thing, IHJ. I hear this from my W from time to time. She finally gave me an example of HOW she wanted to be comforted, and I have to force myself to remember it when something comes up, instead of doing what I normally do, which is shift into fix-it mode.
Can he be trained to comfort you in an acceptable manner?
One more thing: When atlDave was on here recently, he wrote about how he "farmed out" certain needs of his that weren't being met by his W. Perhaps, in order to save the M, you might want to consider farming out the need for comfort to a friend, family member, or professional (therapist).
