Well, J, the thing you and I have discovered is that when we are too passive, we end up becoming LD. We can blame this on our H's, for not fulfilling the dominant role better...or we can come up with ideas to become more active without throwing the whole dynamic out of whack. Passively active. Active but not overwhelming. Whatever.
I do think that if I accept the staus quo, I can cognitively spin it around only so many times before I get frustrated. And I think that's the point you began re-posting on the BB.
I feel right now I'm at a place of calm, kind of content, and blah. My solution is to make Saturdays my spice-it-up nite...I have more time to get into sexual mode, and H isn't feeling work pressure. Gives me something to work on and look forward to. Even if it's a flop, at least I am putting myself in the game...not sure what I will come up with, but I love your suggestion...really made me laugh.
