Thank you Chrissy... I have to catch up on the board here...hope you are at a better place...sometimes it has to get worse before it can get better.
I see clearly how my H and my own personality/ mental styles combined to cause tension and distance. I have wanted to escape for some time, but when it came down to it, I found myself putting more and more work trying to save it. I ( finally) feel now that my H is also trying...less in denial.
I'd like to be optimistic, but you never know with certainty how things will turn out, especially once you start developing boundaries and recognizing that there are some things that you just don't want to tolerate. And on the other side, I don't know how successful I will be in maintaining the changes that help my H feel good about me. He definitely likes me calm... HELP!!
Anyway, Chrissy, hope you are finding some peace of mind and eventual passion as well.
