That's so formal. As long as we're all on Heather's side, feel free to refer to me as "Look, dude,".
I'm not hard over on FOO issues but I'll state the objections I do have. First, MWD isn't a big fan and I think she's pretty smart and I tend to defer to her on this type of thing. Second...
I bet 10-to-1 this comes from her FOO.
I wouldn't take that bet because you may well be right. But if you offered me this bet and nine other similar ones, you'd be on. The exercise would highlight my next objection to FOO analysis...are we going to be able determine that a particular fear came from a particular FOO root so we can figure out who wins each bet? To me, it's like thinking we understand why someone else did a particular thing. We may think we know, we may even feel completely sure, but we turn out to be wrong so often it's usually not worth the effort.
I am not as familiar with Heather’s past as you, but I don’t recall anything so traumatic in her FOO.
I think there are some candidates. Have you ever discussed issues from your FOO in IC, Heather?
Of course there are other issues that may take much more work to overcome, but if it is an easy issue, one generated only by our size and weakness as children, and confronting it may be rather easy, why not do so?
Hey, nobody likes picking the low-hanging fruit more than me.
(Lil) The why can take a long time, and in fact, may never be totally answered. So I think it's good to change behaviors in a positive direction, too, even before you know why you were doing the negative stuff.
Indeed. There's no downside to changing behaviors in a positive direction. If there's something deeper that sabotages positive changes then it needs to be rooted out, but that's not the fault of the new, positive behavior itself.
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