OK. I understand the situation more now. I think you are taking the right path. IMHO, you should just make the direct statement that you are willing to work on "upgrading" the marriage, but that includes ALL aspects of it. If he wants to work on finances to create a situation that is more equitable, then he should be willing to work on all other troubling aspects of your M, including those that you find troubling that he may not.
As far as the proportional payment, that really is kinda silly IMHO. Do you yourself generate a larger amount of the bills? Household necessities are shared by the whole family and thus should be split evenly. Then whatever money is left each person can then used for entertainment purposes. One would hope that many of the forms of entertainment would be jointly enjoyed, in which case the person making more money coud opt to pick up the tab more often.
I see the proportional distribution as adding a monkey to the back of your relationship that will be hard to remove later.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
