Let me lay out a few more points here, things that I feel are important. First of all, separate accounts have been a way of life for us since the beginning...it is the norm. I am not about to switch from this norm at such a volatile time. Which is beside the point, because joint accounts are not what H wants-he simply wants me to pay more of the bills. $500.00/month more to be exact. Ok, so the decision is not whether or not to mingle money. It is whether or not to pay more of the monthly expenses than he does.
Chrome, I wanted to respond to the point of revenge. I can see where H would think it was revenge to refuse the 'weighted average' method of splitting expenses. He has already said I am pulling the 'money card' on him and that I am holding money over his head. I have to refrain myself from asking him WTF? At this point, we are more separated than married. I want to change that. Perhpas paying more of the bills will help. Perhaps it won't. He mostly seems to feel entitled, telling me I was being absolutely ridiculous for not immediately agreeing. If I take over the bills, I can't very well go back on it later. So, I'll be stuck in a situation where I pay more of the bills in a life we share where I'm not even allowed to sleep in my own freakin bed. Just great. I don't see that leading to good places for me.
Sooooo, my thoughts are to tell H that he has a fair idea, however, the timing is bad. Let's readdress at a later date, when we are acting more like a married couple as opposed to roomates.
I want to feel like I'm doing a fair thing. I feel like I'm doing the right thing for me, but is it fair?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
